Well, I just, so for the last, I can't believe it, but in the last couple years, my husband's been, he's been meeting with his co-worker Lisa for lunch. Okay. And that's what he says, right? Okay. They go to lunch together, and I say, I feel like you're cheating on, you know, you're cheating on me with her, and he's like, no, no, no, we go to lunch, and so, and it's been a couple years now, and then I just got, you know, a DM from one of my husband's coworkers saying that he's definitely cheating with her. oh no i'm just trying to process this um because i just can't believe that i'm this stupid