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more variety from the 2000s the 90s and today it's star 101 three it's marcus and cory and it's back everybody second date update let's do this okay so what we want to do is we want to help you

get a second date you had the first one you thought it rocked now you're getting ghosted

we try to figure out why because we're experts not really pros if you will no let's say good morning to bear hey what's up guys good morning so what's up with lauren like how did you guys meet and then let's run through the first date and see see what happens all right yeah so we met

on tinder uh messaged for a few weeks before you know meeting up and uh you know just had to

make sure she wasn't crazy sure before we get into the first date i have to know is it bear like a grizzly bear how do you kind of bear how do you get a name like that you're saying like b-e-a-r

B-A-R-E.

I mean, obviously, we blame your parents, but that's very unique, is my point. Is that your real name?

Yeah, no, it is. It's my real name. Really? Yeah. So, I actually, you know, I grew up pretty skinny. So, Bear didn't really, like, fit. So, a lot of people just ended up calling me Cubby.

Aww. That's cute.

Yeah. No, I hated it.

But, you know, it's dumb. Well, everybody thinks I'm a dude if that makes you feel better with my name.

Corey got asked one time during a costume contest at Halloween whether she was a drag queen.

That has nothing to do with my name.

Oh, I thought, never mind. All right, this got different. But you're cool with it now? You're good with it now? I mean, you know. I like it. Yeah. Anyway, sorry. Let's get back to Lauren. So you guys met on Tinder, and tell us about the first date. Like, what was it?

Okay. So one thing that we talked about, you know, just, like, messaging each other was we both love craft cocktails. We love the fancy, you know, the fancy stuff. We went and decided to meet up at a speakeasy in San Francisco. Fun. Yeah. It was, like, one of those kinds of places where, like, you know, it looks like it's, like, oh, it's like a restaurant up front. But if you go to the back, you know, there's, like, a secret staircase. You have to have, like, a password. It was awesome. It's like a whole other world opens up in the back. Right. And the drinks were awesome, solid wine selection, and definitely helped set the mood.

Sure.

Yeah, great spot. We both live in the East Bay, but work in the city. And so, like, I don't know. I was just excited to meet somebody who also liked old-fashioned. Yeah, I don't know. Like just thinking about the date didn't seem like there was any dip in the day. Like it felt like conversation was pretty good. It ended with a hug and yeah, that's pretty much it. Now I just haven't heard from her at all. I've reached out a couple of times. I was just going to ask like text or whatever.

And nothing.

Nothing. Yeah. I'm not getting anything.

All right. Well, that's usually how it goes. That's why we do this. We're going to call her.

So let's play a song. Let's regroup, and then we'll give Lauren a shot, okay? Okay. All right, hang out. It's Second Date Update, Star 101. More variety from the 2000s, the 90s, and today it's Star 101.3. It is Marcus and Corey. We are doing Second Date Update. You know this. Briefly chatted with Bear. Yes, that is his real name. Yes. Bear, are you on standby? Yeah, I am. Okay. Because we're about to make the call. We're going to call Lauren. She ghosted after their first date, which sucks.

The place they went to sounds really fun, though.

Yeah, dude, they went to a speakeasy. love NSF okay let's call her and see what's up there go ahead and go on mute and let's see what

we can find out here we go hello I may speak with Lauren please this is Lauren hi Lauren it's Marcus and Corey from Star 101.3. Lauren. Oh, my God. Oh, my God, girl. Okay.

Oh, my gosh. Wait a minute. Can I ask, am I on Second Date Update? This is my girl. Wow. I want to tell me the truth. You have to tell me now.

Why? Is this a setup? Are you in cahoots?

Oh, I'm excited. I listen to your show. I love this. I've always, like, honestly, I've been dating for a while, and I've always kind of wanted to be on Second Date Update and show my horror story, so I'm really hoping that's what

you're about to tell me. There are some times when we do this when I feel like the couple is setting us up. Oh. You know what I mean?

I've never thought that. Oh,

well, see, I'm a gross conspiracy theorist. Anyway. Do you know?

Okay, so do you know what we're calling about? Yes, you are on

Second Date Update. Let's start there.

I think my last date that I went on was with Bear.

Yes.

A guy named Bear. Bear. Is Bear there? I know how this goes. Is Bear here? Is he on the phone?

Hey, what's up, Lauren? Hey. Yeah.

Hi, Bear.

This is exciting. So, did you ghost on our friend Bear here? I mean, we're... I sure did. Okay, we're all adults. Oh, that's said with confidence. Did something go down? I think I'm going to let her take over, and I'm going to just take off for the day.

No, you don't understand. I'm so excited right now. Okay. Is that weird? Is that weird? Like, are people ever excited?

actually it is okay but please continue so what happened um okay okay there i'm sorry

first the positives i thought you're really cute wonderful location for the first date and you dressed really nice really appreciated that but you made it weird okay oh how um okay we went to the speakeasy i mean he's probably told you this right did he tell you yes so it was

like a it was like a hidden staircase behind a something in the back of the restaurant that led

to a bar super cool yeah it was like exactly the kind of date i'd want to go on and you know we had a couple of drinks and you know as you do when you've been drinking a little bit you start to get a little bit looser which i totally understand um sassy but he's he you know he started talking about my piercings um i have my ears pierced i also have my cartilage pierced on both ears with bars and i have a nose ring so i know that that's you know that's a lot of hardware for some people but he saw my pictures he seemed obviously liked what he saw um and then that unfortunately led into some really weird probing questions that i was not comfortable with um as soon as he brought up my piercings he started asking if i had any other piercings and started asking if i had any shall we say private piercings and he didn't just leave it at that which already would have been kind of like a to me a weird question for a first date but like he got really explicit and really graphic with it and i was very uncomfortable like i'm obviously i know i'm on the radio there may be younger people listening so i'm not going to go into detail about what he said he just started you know explicitly kind of like i don't know if this is the right word lasciviously like naming parts of my body and being like do you have this pierce and i'm like uh no and he's like what about these do you have these pairs and i'm like ew you know it just got super weird and um give me the ick okay okay fair enough i mean did you have a lot to drink i mean i had like i

had a couple drinks i had maybe like three drinks i don't know like i thought we were just having a conversation i did not think i was you know crossing any barriers i thought we were comfortable with ourselves like i said i just i didn't think it was that weird in the moment i apologize for asking, but like I said, I just thought those were appropriate questions. Not for first date.

Right. I mean, there's no second date here, right? I don't think so. I don't think I'm comfortable with it. You know, like if that's how the date started, I just, I don't think that, um, I don't think I want to continue, but Bear, I truly believe there is hope for you. I think that maybe you just like, if you talk to some of your female friends about this and, and explain to them and ask if it would make them uncomfortable, maybe they could help you understand why it's not appropriate.

Yeah, I get it. Hang on. That got weird at the end.

At the end? I mean, it was kind of weird throughout.

That was your outside voice, dude. Come on, man. So weird. Anyway, second date update, 7.05 weekday mornings. Replays at 9.05. We do have a podcast, as you know. In fact, go check out all of our podcasts, please. Subscribe. Please. At Marcus and Corey on the iHeartRadio app.