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WKQI Detroit. WSNX Mesquite and Grand Rapids. WBKS Toledo. Three great stations. One stupid show. This is Mojo in the Morning live.

All right, it is Mojo in the Morning. Am I the a-hole right now? You decide whether a person on the phone line here, one of our fellow listeners, is an a-hole. We'll voice disguise you because I know this is kind of a work issue and I don't want to get you in trouble. We'll just give you a random initial. Initial M, I'm with us right now. Hi, M. Hi, how are you? Good. M wants to know if she is an a-hole. I understand that you're a manager of a company, of an office, right?

Yeah, I'm an executive at a local company.

And you guys recently did something at work that you think that some people are a little upset with. What was it that you did?

I think so, and I appreciate you having my voice disguised. Sure, no problem. Well, we had done a survey at the office recently. Supposedly there's some team issues, so I thought it would be a great idea to put together a comment, anonymous uh team builder you know kind of event it was an eye-opener because everybody was submitting complaints and things like that so turned out that they were complaining on one specific manager um you know so i took it upon myself i decided we need to talk about this complaint and bring it to the table although it was supposed to be anonymous i kind of you know i had to address it um you know i felt like for us to work as a team we need to be open and clear the air uh so at the end of one of the meetings um you know some bits on the team came up to me she was like you know you need to be put in place so she got all in my face and uh said that i was deceptive with my motives and the survey was supposed to be actually anonymous so i don't know It was her as a ringleader or whatever.

So you did an anonymous survey, and on the anonymous survey, a lot of people came back and said that a specific manager was not a good manager. And you took the anonymous survey and brought it to the whole team and that manager to try to correct the issue. And the people that filled out the anonymous survey were upset that their survey was not anonymous.

Right.

Did you say to the manager, these specific people told me that you're not a good person?

Good question. No, of course not. It's still anonymous, but it was unanimous.

It was unanimous.

It was anonymous, but unanimous.

So everybody doesn't like this person.

Right.

So they all feel like they got called out now because you brought it to the attention.

At the end of the day, the problem did get addressed, and although everybody was upset about it, i have a responsibility to call out you know on professionalism or just not team building you know okay work together like this you're wondering if you're the a-hole yeah am i the a-hole for bringing it up to the team after what else would you do i mean

Now you're confusing yourself.

Yeah.

What else would you do in this case? I mean, aside from firing the manager for being a bad manager.

I don't know if you need to bring the entire team into the conversation. I think having a one-on-one with that manager, the individual that everybody is speaking ill about, is the proper way to handle it. I don't know if you need everybody in one room.

But you made it not anonymous by saying that everybody agreed that there was a problem with this person. So then every person who took that survey, he or she knew, took issue with her, right? So everybody was guilty at that point. So I see where you are going, and I see you are trying to be a responsible manager here. But I do think you are an a-hole because if I'm taking an anonymous survey, I am going to feel comfortable then saying what I really want to say. Where probably, otherwise, I'm not, just because that's my personality. Like, I kind of hate confrontation, even though I'm trying to get better about that. But I would be upset then, because then my name is out there.

But do you really feel like your work survey is going to stay anonymous? That your managers aren't looking at what you're saying, and they know that you submitted it? Yeah, that's a good point, KP. Is there really some type of privacy at work when it comes to that type of thing?

At first, I did. I answered one survey for this company very, very honestly when I first started working here. Genuinely, it was sent out to everybody in the company. So I thought it was under some sort of like almost Apple algorithm where it was like encrypted. You couldn't follow it back to us. And then a manager addressed me about what I had written in it. And I was like, oh. Oh, yeah. In a bad way?

Like that? Wow. Because I was honest in it.

But I thought it was going to be helpful. Like if you're asking to know what the issues are so you can fix them and I tell you what the issues are, don't come blame me for telling you what the issues were let's get some calls in this uh 844

mojo live 844-665-6548 is initial m an a-hole for breaking the trust of an anonymous survey by saying it was unanimous i think probably that was a bad move like shannon said i think that you're

an a-hole for that because kev's point you you could have just had a one-on-one with her and been like you know there was an issue that came up you didn't have to say every single person said

that everybody hates you now go back to work and enjoy working with each other yeah i'll be quite honest with you i don't understand if everybody has an issue that to me sounds like and are you that person's boss that everybody has an issue with or you're okay well then you got a problem right because if you can't manage a person to make you know i mean like you've allowed that person to be that bad and the problem lies i hate to say this with with you initial m

And also, why would you think public shaming would be the most receptive option for that to fix the issue?

Trisha, what's up? Am I the a-hole?

I think it's an a-hole. Unfortunately, none of them surveys are anonymous. I worked for a major drugstore retailer, and we did them surveys often. We all knew who said what.

Really?

So for her to use that information, she needs to make her team better. She takes the survey. It's not just one person that said it. it's across the board, so she needs to address the issue across the board. So what if it was, you know, they need to be increased. Is she supposed to keep that separate, too?

No. But if you say it's anonymous, then you've set a false expectation. By the way, I've never

taken one of those surveys. Ever. I'm not joking. By the way, you ever fill

out, like, one of those, you bought a car surveys and stuff, or a survey for a company, and they, you hear the person has been calling you back? Had that happened to me at a business where you fill out a survey and you're like, yeah, it was a restaurant. And I said, yeah, I just thought that they just seemed like they were either understaffed or whatever. And then the manager calls back and I'm like, oh, crap, this is one of the places I'd love to go to. But they were cool with me for giving them the feedback. What's up, Donovan?

Hey, good morning, guys. First time, long time.

Donovan is initial M in A-hole.

I would say no, she isn't an a-hole, only because I'm in the leadership role myself. And even though it's an anonymous survey, leaders are held to a different standard. So a manager, in this case, I want to hold them accountable and let them know, like, hey, there were some concerns brought up in the survey. But I'm not going to say who exactly said it, but I will address it because they are a leader.

Would you do that in front of the group or would you do that in a one-on-one?

No, that would be a one-on-one.

So you're not this manager.

Yeah. So that was the problem. The problem was how she did it, I think. That was the... Ah, okay, okay. That makes more sense. Like, doing it and having everybody sitting there going, oh, crap.

Like, that had to be very uncomfortable. David, what's up? Am I the a-hole? And the majority of people are saying that.

It's like she went to court and pointed at everybody. You know, here's my witnesses. Nah, nah, nah, nah. A-hole for sure.

I never understand if you have a situation where a person is that bad and everybody has a problem with it. Why it's gone to a survey to get you to notice why that person is that bad. That culture.

Bad management. Yeah. The culture may not be one that provides the level of comfortability for the team members to want to vocalize their frustrations.

Why are you not looking at me in the eyes right now? I think that you're referring to something with me. You know I'll tell you something. I love it. All right, hold on. By the way, here's the survey. Do you like working on the show or not? Answer the survey to the listeners. Okay. There you go. You got to answer it at 7.20 in the morning. And by the way, why do I not get the same surveys that Megan gets? The company never asked me for anything.

Oh, it was like seriously eight or nine years ago.

All I do is take tests for how to do an EAS test and not do it, you know, as a joke or whatever.

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I'm Mungesha Tikalur, and I'm back with a new season of my podcast, Skyline Drive. This time I talk to scientists, biopunks, curmudgeons, blues owners, super seniors, and Goa's top cryotherapy lab to try to understand this obsession with living forever and what it means for all of us. And I get into a bit of trouble along the way.

I'd say probably start bone smashing. That doesn't work. Make it look more defined. They say it works. I don't know.

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Amen.