F them babies. F them babies. Okay, for people who don't know the context of where F them babies started we were drunk in a girl's bathroom, right? New mom was out for the first time ever leaving her baby at home with dad and she wanted to go home and i said no it's a girl's night f that baby it's not like i hate kids i was just telling her to have good a good self-care night with her girlfriends but also f them babies there it is so i don't hate kids i just don't think that i want any of my own and i have a few people in my life right now who don't have kids, who just started dating people who do have kids. And at first, I think they were both a little, are you ready for a big word? A little trepidatious. But, you know, an educated woman. I think they were a little on the fence about it at first. And now, both of them are loving it. And here's the thing. I don't think I would have liked this when I was, like, 21. But now that I'm 30, I learned that when you date somebody with kids, there's so much structure and so many expectations of, like, time commitments. And I am here for it. Like, they'll be like, nope, I have the kids for the next four days. It's free me time. Or, oh, next three days kids are with dad. I'm going to be spending time with them. Or the kids have school in the morning. I have to leave by 9 o'clock, whatever it is. And there are so many just, like, healthy boundaries that are clearly communicated that they are loving it and don't feel like they're being pressured into anything. My only issue is, like, if you're a single parent, right, and you're starting to date somebody, do you have any expectations down the road at all for your partner to step up in a parental role? And I'm not talking about, like, you've dated for a month. Oh, my God, your dad. I'm saying, like, four years from now, it's still pretty serious. do you expect your partner to be a parent? Because if I could be like the fun step-mom and not like the authoritative set boundaries and rules one.