Let me tell you something. I think that this applies to more than divorced families. I think this could happen in the same household as well with mom versus dad, but we transition the kids every Sunday. So we are week on, week off. On Sundays, they either come to my house for the week or they go to their dad's house for the week. And every Sunday, and I'm sure this is the case with Josiah as well, they come with pretty much the same group of items. They come with their backpacks, their swim backpacks, because they're both on swim team. Smith has his blankets, both have their Apple watches, both have their iPads. And then Smith always has a random bag of crap. And it's just like a rotating bag of random stuff. So this past Sunday, I got Smith's, I got all of those things. I got Smith's iPad, but I didn't get Lucy's. And I asked her where it was. And she mentioned to me that she got it taken away because she was sassy with dad. and so he he took it from her and she was like oh he forgot to give it back to her can you ask him for it can you text him and ask him for it and i'll be honest i totally forgot to text him i was like just use you know my ipad if you need to do something or she likes to play this game tocoboco she likes to play roblox okay so all day sunday all day monday she's using been using my ipad to do her stuff well so then I text my ex-husband and I'm like hey can I stop by at some point and grab Lucy's iPad because she wants it you know and he's like oh no she got it taken away for the week because I didn't I didn't appreciate that she was disrespectful in the way that she was speaking to me and I'm like oh crap well one I would have liked to have known that because I was unaware that she wasn't supposed to have an iPad all week. And two, Lucy did not tell me and totally swindled me into using my iPad when she knew that she wasn't supposed to be using it. So I thought, is she smart or is she conniving? Or both. Or both, I think is the answer. But I totally got played. You did. Is this the first time? I got played. Is this the first time you've been playing? When it comes to a punishment situation, I think so. I think this is the first major time I've got played. I'm sure there have been other situations where dad said no and they come to mom's house and I say yes. But I don't recall that it's ever been about a punishment. I don't know if this is the case with you and Josiah. You know, when there's two different households and sometimes, you know, the communication isn't 100 percent, which it happens. We're all busy. But and then you're unaware and you don't know.