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Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast, designed to help bring those four key Stoic virtues, courage, discipline, justice, and wisdom into the real world. Hey there, just a heads up, I'm going to be on tour this fall. You can see me in Australia and New Zealand in October, in August, I'm mixing my months up here, but in August, you can see me in Chicago and Minneapolis and Detroit. then I'll be on the East Coast sometime in November and December. Anyways, grab tickets to that, dailystoiclive.com. Hope to see you there. It is so hard to find. You think it would be easy. After all, they have the time, they have the resources, they usually have the brainpower and the education. And yet the writers of A Satisfied Mind, a song that's been covered by Bob Dylan and Jeff Buckley and Bonnie Vera, to name a few, were absolutely right. In fact, they sound like they're quoting Seneca when they sing, but little they know that it's so hard to find one rich man in 10 with a satisfied mind. Why is this? Well, as the Stoics, many of them fortunate and wealthy, knew very well, money brings anxiety in many forms. Fear you'll lose it, worry that someone else has more, insecurity that people are judging you, the stress of having so many choices, all the things to take care of. It's certainly a better problem than having too little, but having too much is still a problem and not one that automatically leads to peace or contentment. The ability to be content, to be grateful, to be at peace, These are real luxuries, if you think about it, because they're so rare. Apparently, 9 out of 10 rich people can't even afford them. This year is going to be the 10-year anniversary, not just of the Daily Stoic book, but dailystoic.com. The email, the podcast, all that stuff. And I don't think we would be standing here 10 years later if it weren't for Shopify. Shopify has been the back end of so many things we've done from the new year, new you challenges to the medallions to posters. Even right now, you're going to buy a signed book for me. You're going to be checking out through Shopify at DailyStoebook.com. Or if you're buying something from Daily Dad there, or if you come to the Painted Porch, we even use Shopify at point of sale in the store. And if you've been sitting on a business idea, Shopify makes it easy to make that happen. You've got everything you need to start selling. and Shopify handles the setup and the checkout and you can focus on growing the business and they've got all the tools to help you with what you need, which is why Shopify powers millions of businesses worldwide from household names like Mattel and Gymshark to small businesses just getting started like Daily Stoic was not that long ago.

With Shopify, nothing stands between your idea and real business, so go make it one. Start your free trial at shopify.com slash stoic. That's shopify.com slash stoic to start your free trial. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. I don't think stoicism is about being emotionless, but it is about thinking about those strong emotions. We have questioning them, getting to the bottom of them, asking if they're healthy or productive or not, asking if they're based on anything real or not. And these are all questions I've been over with my therapists over the years. I said plural because I've switched at different times in my life based on where I lived, what I need. One thing that's been consistent, though, is I always do remote therapy. I want to find the best person, which means I don't really care where they live. Also, I don't want to drive across town. I don't want to wait in traffic. I don't want to do any of that. That's where today's sponsor comes in. If you've been considering therapy, check out today's sponsor, BetterHelp. BetterHelp makes finding a therapist super easy. BetterHelp does the initial matching work for you. You can switch at any time. And with over 30,000 therapists, BetterHelp is the world's largest online therapy platform, and they serve more than 6 million people globally. Don't let stigma stand in the way of support. Start therapy with BetterHelp. Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com slash DailyStoicPod. That's BetterHelp.com slash DailyStoicPod. Don't look for the third thing. The Stoics teach us that doing well is its own reward. To do the right thing, to see someone helped by it, this is enough. To go around expecting thanks, what Marcus Aurelius describes as the third thing, that is to miss the point. It's being greedy. Keeping score not only misses the purposes of being good, it's foolish. It sets you up for disappointment. If you're going to do some accounting, look at it from the other direction. How many people have helped us? What do we owe them in return? Think about clearing some debts this week and consider forgetting any notion of others owing you. This is from this week's entry in the Daily Stoic Journal, 366 days of writing and reflection on the art of living together by myself and the wonderful Steve Hanselman. You can buy this anywhere books are sold. I sell a bunch of signed copies, personalize it, usually write prepare and reflect in the Daily Stoic store. You can buy that at store.dailystoic.com. Then we've got two quotes from Marcus to think about today. One person on doing well by others immediately accounts the expected favor in return. Another is not so quick, but still considers the person a debtor and knows the favor. A third kind of person acts as if not conscious of the deed, rather like a vine producing a cluster of grapes without making further demands, like a horse after its race, or a dog after its walk, or a bee after making its honey. Such a person, having done a good deed, won't go shouting from rooftops, but simply moves on to the next deed, just like the vine produces another

bunch of grapes in the right season. It's Marcus Aurelius' meditations five, six. That's such a beautiful image. Plants produce fruit. They don't even reap the benefits of that fruit. They just do it because that's their nature. That's their job. And then we have one more. When you've done well and another has benefited by it, why, like a fool, do you look for the third thing on top? Credit for the good deed or favor in return. That's Marcus Aurelius' meditations seven, seven, three. Anytime Marcus is repeating himself in meditation, I think it's illustrative. And I think he is doing what we all do, right? He did something good. Then he was disappointed that it either wasn't recognized or he was frustrated that it was interpreted incorrectly. Or like, imagine you're Marcus Rebellus. You're trying not to be corrupted by power. You've seen what your horrible predecessors have done and you're being attacked for it. You know, he says that the rewards of being a leader is to do good things and earn a bad reputation. You still get attacked. If you're going through life looking for this third thing, and I do this all the time myself, if you're going through life looking for that third thing, you're going to be disappointed all the time. And you're going to question why you were doing the good thing. Because if you're doing it in this quid pro quo, one hand washes the other, you do a thing, they do a thing. You start to go, this is a sucker's payoff. Like I'm doing the right thing and I'm not getting anything for it. I'm going to stop doing the right thing. No, the Stoics want you to think, no, the right thing is your job. You do the right thing because it produces pleasure for you. You do the right thing because that's what you were put here on this planet to do. You do the right thing because it's the right thing. Don't look for the third thing. Do the right thing because it's the right thing. That's this week's lesson. And as we said in the little meditations, forgive the debts that others owe you and be very diligent about paying your debts to all the people who have selflessly done good things for you and this world over the years. Hey, it's Ryan. Thank you for listening to the Daily Stoic Podcast. I just wanted to say we so appreciate it. We love serving you. It's amazing to us that over 30 million people have downloaded these episodes in the couple of years we've been doing it. it's an honor please spread the word tell people about it and this isn't to sell anything I just wanted to say thank you